Who’s in Charge?

Continuing from my previous post, what do I mean by “Who is lusting and hating?” Of course, I am doing that, right? Umm, maybe. If I am doing it, I can stop whenever I wish since lust and hatred are the main causes of my misery. But can I? The answer is probably not, at least not without effort. Then, why is it so challenging to stop excess desire and over-the-top negativities? Am I not in charge of my mind and body? If I am in charge, I should be able to stop all aspects of my life that I disapprove of.