Practice as We Grow Older

You have lived a long life. Perhaps you have cared for parents, a spouse, children, or grandchildren. You have experienced joy and happiness, love and friendship, as well as illness, loss, disappointment, and loneliness.

Now the body may not be as strong as before. Things that once came easily may require more effort. Family roles change, and others may no longer need your help in the same ways. Along with these changes, sadness, disappointment, or a sense of being forgotten may arise.

These experiences can become part of your practice. Notice what happens when you compare the present with the past: “I used to be able to do this. People used to need me.” Observe the feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations that arise. Can you recognize the wish for things to remain as they were?

When emotions become strong, return to the body. Feel the breath, the sensations in your hands, or the weight of your body as you sit. You do not need to follow every thought or build a story around it. Recognize what is happening, let go, and return to the present.

The conditions of your life are changing, and your practice can respond to those changes. You may need a chair, a different posture, or shorter periods of sitting. You can continue observing the mind while walking, resting, speaking, and carrying out ordinary activities.

As the body changes and familiar roles fall away, you can learn to meet yourself with greater kindness. Continue cultivating mindfulness, wisdom, and the wholesome qualities of the mind. Growing older does not close the door to practice. The changing conditions of this very life remain your place of practice.